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Change your life by changing your way of thinking
"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our POWER to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom"
Viktor E. Frankl
Generally, you don’t feel bad; your life looks good enough. And this 'good enough' is exactly what confuses you. You don’t know where to start in order to feel better and happier. You see plenty of advice in books, social media, which look rights and good things to do, but you still fail to take action…

You feel sometimes or even all the time:
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Generally, you don’t feel bad; your life looks good enough. And this 'good enough' is exactly what confuses you. You don’t know where to start in order to feel better and happier. You see plenty of advice in books, social media, which look rights and good things to do, but you still fail to take action…

You feel sometimes or even all the time:
among your friends and maybe even in your family
about where your life is going and which choices to make
in some problems that seem like a never-ending trap
at work and in private
because your relationships don’t go as you’d like them to go
changes in your life or making wrong decisions
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I have an ANSWER for you.

All these pieces of advice in books don’t work, and we don’t become a NEW person if we continue thinking in the OLD way. We cannot keep our current way of thinking and expect that, by some magical advice, our life will dramatically change soon. And it also doesn’t work to start doing things in a different way while remaining the same person as we are today. We can’t create our desired future if we continue to think from the past.

Looks like a never-ending circle, no?
I understand, and I know how it feels.

It’s not as terrible as it might look, and this is how you can feel instead
I have an ANSWER for you.

All these pieces of advice in books don’t work, and we don’t become a NEW person if we continue thinking in the OLD way. We cannot keep our current way of thinking and expect that, by some magical advice, our life will dramatically change soon. And it also doesn’t work to start doing things in a different way while remaining the same person as we are today. We can’t create our desired future if we continue to think from the past.

Looks like a never-ending circle, no?
I understand, and I know how it feels.

It’s not as terrible as it might look, and this is how you can feel instead.
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in being yourself and following your values and goals
which will earn you respect from others
to take action and accomplish goals
Finding
Acting with
Feeling
in each day of your life
with people you love
for better life quality
Seeing
Enhancing
Using your inner
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Neuropsychology suggests that we typically only consciously recognize about 5% of our thoughts. Just think about it, only 5%! And who is in control of the remaining 95%? How do we react, and how do we make life decisions if we don’t actually understand why we think what we think? Is it an illusion? Are we deceiving ourselves?
You can’t create space for growth if your mind is filled with "garbage." You need to clear it of all nonsense; otherwise, you will not see things right in front of your nose because you are preoccupied with your filters.
Neuropsychology suggests that we typically only consciously recognize about 5% of our thoughts. Just think about it, only 5%! And who is in control of the remaining 95%? How do we react, and how do we make life decisions if we don’t actually understand why we think what we think? Is it an illusion? Are we deceiving ourselves?
You can’t create space for growth if your mind is filled with "garbage." You need to clear it of all nonsense; otherwise, you will not see things right in front of your nose because you are preoccupied with your filters.
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About me
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My name is Maria Klyukina and I am a Transformational coach.

My career path has been rich and varied for the past 20 years. I was working as a financial analyst in well-established multinational corporations in Russia and Switzerland, where I moved 15 years ago. I had a chance to collaborate with remarkable individuals on exciting projects.

I changed my analytical focus from business to people when I realized that their stories and goals are more captivating and complex. Transforming a business for success is quite doable, but dealing with the complexities of the human mind is genuinely challenging.

Rather than implementing changes within companies, I’ve come to value more the happiness and personal development of people. It brings me happiness to observe people finding serenity and defining their unique life direction.

I won’t simply guide you from point A to some imaginary point B because, in life, there isn’t a fixed destination. Instead, I’ll accompany you on a fascinating journey of self-discovery, exploring your thoughts, feelings, desires, and happiness. It’s not about reaching point B; it’s about embracing the vast, wonderful place that is your unique life.

My name is Maria Klyukina and I am a Transformational coach.

My career path has been rich and varied for the past 20 years. I was working as a financial analyst in well-established multinational corporations in Russia and Switzerland, where I moved 15 years ago. I had a chance to collaborate with remarkable individuals on exciting projects.

I changed my analytical focus from business to people when I realized that their stories and goals are more captivating and complex. Transforming a business for success is quite doable, but dealing with the complexities of the human mind is genuinely challenging.
Rather than implementing changes within companies, I’ve come to value more the happiness and personal development of people. It brings me happiness to observe people finding serenity and defining their unique life direction.

I won’t simply guide you from point A to some imaginary point B because, in life, there isn’t a fixed destination. Instead, I’ll accompany you on a fascinating journey of self-discovery, exploring your thoughts, feelings, desires, and happiness. It’s not about reaching point B; it’s about embracing the vast, wonderful place that is your unique life.
My name is Maria Klyukina and I am a Transformational coach.

My career path has been rich and varied for the past 20 years. I was working as a financial analyst in well-established multinational corporations in Russia and Switzerland, where I moved 15 years ago. I had a chance to collaborate with remarkable individuals on exciting projects.
I changed my analytical focus from business to people when I realized that their stories and goals are more captivating and complex. Transforming a business for success is quite doable, but dealing with the complexities of the human mind is genuinely challenging.

Rather than implementing changes within companies, I’ve come to value more the happiness and personal development of people. It brings me happiness to observe people finding serenity and defining their unique life direction.

I won’t simply guide you from point A to some imaginary point B because, in life, there isn’t a fixed destination. Instead, I’ll accompany you on a fascinating journey of self-discovery, exploring your thoughts, feelings, desires, and happiness. It’s not about reaching point B; it’s about embracing the vast, wonderful place that is your unique life.
During a single session, you can find a solution to a particular problem or improve your emotional state. However, "some things just take time". We need time to train your brain to think in a new way, to recognize life traps, and to adapt your body and your reactions in a more effective way

That’s why I propose to my clients a minimum of 12 sessions for positive results and 30 sessions for stable results.
"You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant, some things just take time"

Warren Buffet
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Price
One time consultation
5 coaching consultations
Package 10 consultations
150 СHF
600 СHF
1 000 СHF

Here’s how we’ll work together

  • You will do 2 tests:
    — BigFive — five-factor personality test
    — MCP — MetaCognitive Programs
  • We will meet weekly in Zoom for 50−60 minutes sessions
  • After each session, you will receive a reflection on the session
  • Assessment of progress after every 5 sessions and adaptation of our program as needed
I offer free diagnostic consultation
This session will last approx. 50 mins and I will:
— understand your problem and desired outcome
— provide feedback
— explain MCP coaching method and planning of our sessions.
Once the call is finished, you will have a clear picture of how we can work together and what our next steps are.

I won’t:
— feel sorry for you
— give unrealistic expectations
— speak abstractly and generally
— share success stories of my clients
— use esoteric or any other magic methods

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    Why do some women not leave those who abuse them?

    WHY DO SOME WOMEN NOT LEAVE THOSE WHO ABUSE THEM?

    Why do some women not leave those who abuse them? Often I hear these questions for women who have experienced domestic violence. Let me try to explain👇

    It doesn't matter whether we are talking about psychological, physical or sexual violence. It is often mixed. Any kind of violence is first preceded by psychological violence.

    - At first it was sort of joking if I was late at work - one of woman recalls, and then - long exhausting conversations - trying to tell me that I must have a lover if I was 15 minutes late.

    Over time, the violence becomes more intense, the victim's self-esteem can be destroyed in various ways. "You're a bad wife, you can't cook." "You're a bad wife, the house is a mess." "I wouldn't yell at you if you were normal." Often people wonder: "Why didn't she leave sooner?". Because it wasn't so bad before. The line between bad and good gets blurred BIT BY BIT. It's important! It's like putting a little bit of hot water in a fish aquarium. Just a little bit - wait, they get used to it. They won't die immediately...

    In addition, the victim's psyche often builds defenses and justifications. For example, rationalization: "He is a decent man, he is respected by his colleagues, he loves me, he just has problems at work and he takes it out on me". And the worst thing is that the violence goes in circles.

    The "cycle of violence" was described by American psychologist Lenore Walker in 1979, based on her experience of what happens in a family. The main condition for the existence of this cycle is the involvement of both the aggressor and the victim, that is, one attacks, and the other allows him to do it. And if the cycle is not broken, it will become stronger and stronger with each turn.

    The first phase “Tension building” is characterized by emotional tension, outbursts of anger and insults and can last up to several months. As a rule, the victim is still calm, justifies his partner, looking for some external reason for unusually aggressive behavior (fatigue, stress, problems at work).

    The second phase “Explosion” is the phase of acute violence (the fact of violence). The shortest phase, characterized by maximum emotional tension, outbursts of rage, destructive actions, which are already becoming obvious to the victim and to the aggressor himself.

    The third phase is reconciliation and "Honeymoon". Sobering up of the aggressor, demonstration of remorse and emphasized manifestation of care and love, an attempt to put the victim's vigilance to sleep and keep her in the relationship. At this stage, the victim is confident that the romantic relationship will forever remain in this phase, the hope is growing that the partner will change and the violence will not happen again.

    But according to the theory, the cycle of violence will repeat itself over and over again. And over time, the third phase stops coming at all, and the woman finds herself "stuck" between the two phases - the rising tension and the incident of violence.

    For a long time Walker's cycle of abuse theory was regarded as a revolutionary and important concept in the study of abuse and interpersonal violence. The cycle model contributed to understanding domestic violence, in part because it refuted several myths that were widely believed at the time. Additionally, the “cycle of violence” theory also began the process of shifting the “ownership” of the violence from the victim to the partner who uses violence. Even the past 40 years have expanded evidence and diverse survivor voices and experiences, along with recognition that domestic violence is more complicated than originally thought, this theory remain the simplest classical basic theory for the domestic abuse.

    BATTERED WOMAN SYNDROME - this term was also introduced by Lenore Walker to summarize all the characteristics of women who are chronically abused, do not find the resource to leave dangerous relationships, and endure violence over and over again. The author emphasizes that the category of "battered women" includes women who have experienced at least 2 cycles of violence.

    1. The victim does not know how to say “no” and build personal boundaries in all areas of life.

    2. The female victim does not feel her needs, emotions and desires or perceives them in a distorted way.

    3. The female victim lives in a world of contradictions and mutually exclusive concepts. In the case of violence, two judgments may conflict in her: “I am guilty” and “I don’t deserve it”

    4. The female victim is afraid of disapproval, anger, rejection, loneliness

    5. The female victim is constantly in the waiting mode of violence.

    6. The female victim has dichotomous thinking; the world for her has only 2 sides: black or white, good or bad

    7. She already had a similar experience in her parental family

    Let me remind you that this is only a theory, but it also allows us to think about how to avoid getting into such a relationship, or, if you did already - where there might be a "way out"
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