If I am not in touch with my anger and unable to recognize my needs, I am likely to express it passively:
I will take offense and silently withdraw, expecting them to figure it out on their own. Rejecting and distancing myself, devaluing the relationship and my need for it, all while hoping that they will understand how much it hurts me and make amends
I will ignore the other person and not communicate what I want or what is happening with me, expecting that they will figure it out themselves, understand, and acknowledge their fault
I will present criticism in a joking manner, sarcastically mock certain processes and qualities of another person, mentioning their mistakes and failures, or comparing them to others
I will not openly express my dissatisfaction and will start discussing it with other people, complaining and making judgment
I will use morality as a cover during relationship discussions, maintaining my goodness - 'I don't need anything, let it be good for you, and I'll manage somehow.' I will manipulate, not asking for help or refusing it, and then complain that I have to do everything myself and no one is helping
I will endlessly complain about my state and life difficulties but reject any attempts and offers to help me
I will intrusively invade another person's personal space without their request, to 'take care,' offer advice, or make recommendations. I will constantly rescue the other person and only see their helplessness and inadequacy
I will criticize and express dissatisfaction without offering alternatives or suggestions
I will make promises but not follow through. I will sabotage agreements, constantly be late, reschedule meetings, and not complete tasks I have started
I will avoid conflicts, hide my hurt and anger, and say "everything is fine" when inside, everything is boiling from anger
Do I need to say that this does not contribute to establishing close connections, but on the contrary, undermines contact with others? I think it's already clear.....